The Relationships of Childhood

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When I look back through the blog, I notice how much my early posts focused on the girls’ individual experiences – what they did and how they did it. Now that they are older, I can more easily see how their world has grown. Their relationships now extend beyond our immediate family.   The relationship […]

The Distress of the Dress

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  It is so easy to say I don’t care about my daughters’ clothes when their preferences match my ideas of what is important.   Unfettered play, climbing trees, and canals built in the sand or mud is how I dreamt of my children playing. And they do. They do play that way, I just […]

When Young Children Don’t Want to Wear Costumes

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Involving our children in holiday traditions is arguably one of the most anticipated things about having children. Ornaments painted with endearing sayings about our “Baby’s First Christmas,” and bibs with witty holiday related sayings are a way to share what we know to be the memory making moments of our lives.   There can be […]

Why I Didn’t Step In When Kids Told My Daughter to Go Away

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Children pick and choose play partners. Their willingness to meet and play with other kids is not necessarily hampered by whether they know these kids.  Play groups form naturally whereever play occurs. From school yards to playgrounds, children’s play is critical for practicing how to get along with others, how to make friends, and really […]

Thinking About Girlhood

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At a Kid’s Health and Fitness Fair in our town this weekend, Greysen was literally stopped in her tracks by a trio of young female dancers that offered her an information card about their dance company. She stood after they left commenting on their dresses. Interest piqued, we watched their performance.     As we […]

Small but Helpful Hands

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  Knowing that Greysen is in the “why?” stage, I did a quick search on the farm that we would be visiting with friends. I quickly learned the names of the animals we would see, and memorized a few key facts, so that I could carry on a conversation with her should she be interested. […]

Supporting Morning Farewells

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Like so many things in our lives, our daily “Have a good, fun, day!” routines with Mike have changed as the girls do.   Young children may be ready to say good-bye one day and may hold on tight to you the next.  Even within healthy attachments and positive environments, children may feel ready to […]

My Child is No Longer Welcome at Her School

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  We can’t do this parenting thing on our own. My husband and I have come to rely on family, friends, medical professionals, educators and my moms club, as people to turn to for advice, answers, and sometimes just comfort.   I didn’t realize the extent to which I relied on each group until today, […]

The Beauty of the Earliest Friendships

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Most every gesture of children’s first friendships are, as my sister says, “adorable.”  Such moments often elicit oohs and awws from nearby adults.  We fawn over children who hold hands, however, it’s easy to overlook the importance of such candid expressions of early friendships.   It is harder to pin down what constitutes friendship between […]

Play is Enough

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A teacher friend that I just told about the blog shared with me that she knew what to do with preschool aged children, but was wondering if she was doing enough with her infant son.   It was such a touching moment in an otherwise rushed conversation. Z’s mama was essentially telling me that she […]