A Peaceful Toddlerhood

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  The outdoors are immeasurably valuable to young children’s growth and development. Developing a connection and awareness of nature and wildlife is a priority for my daughters’ childhood.   When my daughters and I go outdoors, I have no intentions for “education” to happen, though it always does.   This week the lesson was for […]

The Distress of the Dress

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  It is so easy to say I don’t care about my daughters’ clothes when their preferences match my ideas of what is important.   Unfettered play, climbing trees, and canals built in the sand or mud is how I dreamt of my children playing. And they do. They do play that way, I just […]

November to Today

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  The last two months went something like this . . .   Thanksgiving. Sold our house. Christmas. New Years. The Flu. Pneumonia and moving out of our house but not yet into our new one.     But we are healthier . . .     and happier.     The girls are feeling […]

The Critical Step of Acknowledgement

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My path to understanding how to acknowledge my children’s emotions has been a long one. I don’t know why something so simple was SO hard for me to incorporate into my parenting practices.   Acknowledging children’s emotions as I learned in my RIE 1 class felt uncomfortable and unresolved. I felt like I wasn’t helping. […]

When Young Children Don’t Want to Wear Costumes

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Involving our children in holiday traditions is arguably one of the most anticipated things about having children. Ornaments painted with endearing sayings about our “Baby’s First Christmas,” and bibs with witty holiday related sayings are a way to share what we know to be the memory making moments of our lives.   There can be […]

Parenting Worries

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The Bell Curve of Worries For the most part, I do not worry about most of my parenting decisions. I try to be intentional when it comes to parenting, and making mistakes is part of any relationship. I do my best. There are a few things I feel like I have a pretty good handle […]

Why I Didn’t Step In When Kids Told My Daughter to Go Away

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Children pick and choose play partners. Their willingness to meet and play with other kids is not necessarily hampered by whether they know these kids.¬† Play groups form naturally whereever play occurs. From school yards to playgrounds, children’s play is critical for practicing how to get along with others, how to make friends, and really […]

5 Overvalued Signs of a Good Preschool Classroom

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With the start of school, I have had many conversations with parents who are visiting preschools for the first time or looking for recommendations from other parents.   Parents may look for and want very different things from programs. Some may have a general desire for their child to learn about science and math, while […]

Observation and Answers

In the early years, our children ask questions regarding¬† . . . well, just about everything.¬† We answer their questions – sometimes only as best we can – and are happy to help them get those answers they seek. However, when children only look to adults for the answers, they continue to be dependent on […]

Letting Go of My Inner Parenting Snob

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  I’m not sure when it was that I first felt like a parent. I don’t think it was during pregnancy. I think the feeling settled in sometime after she was born and I was feeding and changing this small person, my daughter.   At the time, being a parent was about the relationships between […]