Beyond Book End Parenting

Welcome to the February edition of the Authentic Parenting Blog Carnival, hosted by Authentic Parenting and Mudpiemama. This month, participants have looked into the topic of “Fostering Healthy Attachment”. Please scroll down to the end of this post to find a list of links to the entries of the other participants. Enjoy!



When my daughters (now 23 months and 8 months) were 18 months and 3 months old, I started a new job, which meant I now had to work away from home for the first time in their lives. Aside from now not being able to see my daughters throughout the day, they would now have to become accustomed to spending the majority of their mornings and afternoons with one parent, which would also obviously add some stress and an additional workload on my wife, Marisa.
I felt like I was abandoning my family. I felt sad that I wouldn’t be able to share in their experiences like seeing my youngest crawling for the first time, as I did with Greysen. I would be gone for most of their wakeful hours.                       -Mike



The first thought that came to my mind when I realized that Mike would not be working in the next room was, how do we keep Greysen, our eldest, as connected to her Dad while he is working 25 miles away as she was to him while he was working from home? (Our approach is slightly different for each daughter because of their ages, so the described intentions pertain to our toddler for the sake of this post.)              -Marisa




Maintaining Greysen’s feelings of attainability to her Dad was and is important to us, but now with Mike working a 9-6 job. I was challenged to find ways to keep him a part of our life throughout the day, not just at the ends. As the one who would be with her throughout the day,  I wanted to support their attachment so that Greysen’s relationship with her dad would continue to be rich with varied experiences and connections to him as her caregiver. Though morning and nighttime routines are staples in their relationship, they are not the full extent of their relationship.


Cultivating a trusting relationship between himself and Greysen each and every day is within Mike’s charge. It was only after Mike started work that I began to understand the impact I could have on their relationship. I began to see how our play could help Greysen know that Mike thinks about and cares for her while he is at work. I also began to think about how to help her know that she too can think of him and stay connected to him throughout each day.


Though Greysen was in her infancy when Mike started work, we made a concerted effort to explain where he would be during the day. Soon after Mike started his job, we visited one weekend (when his office was closed) as a family to help Greysen understand what we meant by saying he was going to work.


She saw his office and played in there for a bit – we wanted her to feel welcomed and comfortable there.


Here she is in his studio on another day, face painted as is usual.



Maintaining the trust that we thought so much about establishing in her infancy deserves continued attention. Mike is the conscience to the both of us when it comes to following through.


One of the most important things to me is following through for Greysen with whatever I tell her I will be doing, no matter how insignificant it may seem at the time. It’s amazing how much Greysen remembers, because when I say I’ll do something and then later forget, she always reminds me. It’s because of this that I know that if I were to break a promise (or two) or otherwise fail to do something I said I would do, she will know. She would eventually stop reminding me, and I would eventually stop keeping all of my promises. That’s a slippery slope that I don’t want to head down with my daughters, as keeping my word is one of the most important lessons I feel I can pass down to them.  – Mike


I hope to help Greysen trust that Mike will be there for her. Accessibility to her dad is as easy as a phone call. More important to us than calling exclusively for the big things, like bad scrapes or moments of pride that she will remember to share later, are the phone calls to share the little things. Telling her dad about the airplane that just flew overhead or that her sister is being funny is just as important because it helps establish a pattern of conversation.  Greysen is learning that Mike cares about all the parts of her day.  Big or little, he is listening.


Luckily, we can call him most any time so that between the actual phone calls and the ones she makes on her toy unit block, she talks to her dad throughout the day.  So confident is she in his attention and interest she often calls and says an immediate goodbye after she has told her story. Listening, as part of her end of the relationship, is still in its fledgling stages.


Shared Experiences
Mike and Greysen’s connection is qualified by the times that the two spend together. When Greysen talks about her dad, she doesn’t use descriptive terms such as how nice he is or how dependable but instead she recalls shared moments. She has said, “Dada help Greysen play guitar.”  indicating that the times they spend together reading books or getting diaper changes are the instances that define their relationship.


Each and every weekday morning, I get up a few minutes later than I should. Don’t get me wrong – I love my job – but it’s hard for me to leave my girls on most days. More often than not, I’ll hear Greysen calling out for me or her mom from her room, and I go see her to say “good morning” and help her into a fresh diaper.     – Mike


Holding Each Other in Our Minds and Hearts
Though we are not together, we want Greysen to know that we are not apart.


I try to help Greysen and Mike stay connected throughout the day through play. In her pretend play, for instance, props have helped generate conversations that include family, specifically her dad.


In part to help acknowledge Greysen’s connection to her family, especially her dad, I made blocks of significant local spots to add to her block play. The foremost block is a photograph of Mike’s office.  She uses that block and the others as pretend destinations for her cars and again gives her another place to talk about dad.



We acknowledge her understanding of time and explain things in a meaningful way to her. The temptation to make overly simplified explanations or gloss over them altogether is something that we’re mindful of.


Greysen has a toddler’s sense of time. Mike talks to her about his day and listens/asks about her day, and then tells her about the next day’s general events (“Tomorrow is Thursday, so Dad is going to work for two more days this week.”).


In November, Mike traveled for work.  I made a simple countdown calendar for her to refer to. The calendar has no dates or days, which would have been meaningless to her at the time, and is only two weeks long. It is organized from Sunday to Saturday with a picture of Mike in front of our house on the days he would home, and an airplane on the the days that we would be gone. After each day had passed, we would remove that picture so she could see how many days were left until he returned. We now use the calendar as a way to talk about the days he spends at work versus the days he spends with us.


Our environment is a reflection of our family. Just as her toy shelves are a reflection of her interests, her bookcase is an ideal place to reflect on not just her interests, but also her life.  A wedding photograph of Mike and I, as well as pictures of us as children sit among her books. Just as we keep pictures of our family members around other parts of our house to remind us of them, she has pictures of dad to remind her of him.


Fostering the connection to a parent that Greysen sees for just a few hours a day is paradoxical in that it is simple in intent, yet complex in its development.  I expect the ways we can stay connected to each other throughout the day to change as she grows, but for now I think her “see you later Dad” good-byes are indicative of her confidence in their relationship and that she will do just that … see him later.


I’m wondering, how do your children stay connected to their out of home working parent(s)?*





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Get Well Wishes for Friends

Cold season is here, and round our toddler friends, it’s here in full force! Having colds back-to-back-to-back, as toddler and babies often do, can be trying and hard for anyone but especially so for children who aren’t up to playing as usual.
Recently, my daughter was missing one of her under-the-weather friends and wondered when they could play together again. Since he was coping with a cold, I explained we needed to let him rest and could in the meantime send him some get well wishes. Since he was home bound made this “Get Well Box” for her one year old friend.


Toddlers are so interested in others’ emotions. In my classroom experiences, toddlers often remarked about other children crying or displaying feelings of strong emotion. It is at this age that they are looking for ways to communicate their concern for others, especially those they are closest to.
As a way of showing that we are thinking about her friends and wishing them well, we made this “Get Well Box” for a one year old friend.


I chose to use one of my daughter’s shoe boxes because it is easy for little hands to open, but any emptied container will work just about as well.

Some other ideas:

oatmeal container
cereal box
plastic berry baskets – the plastic ones have great holes perfect for weaving with ribbon or yarn.

I wrapped the box with drawing paper, which was a little thick but worked out well enough. I think next time I’d like to try the blank side of some wrapping paper.



I offered Greysen oil pastels for their bold color and ease of use. She chose a few oil pastels and got to drawing.



I personalized the box by writing her friend’s name on it. For a more stylized look, try stamping a name on the box or use stickers. Of course, Greysen had a turn to write as well.



Greysen and I talked about the things her friend might like, then she and I gathered a few of those things to fill the box. I’m glad we chose a small box, because Greysen kept finding things to fill the box with, and soon enough nothing more would fit.


You can fill the box with simple things, as little ones will get a kick out it no matter what. Here are a few ideas:

  • oranges
  • tissues
  • tea
  • homemade note pad – staple a few pieces of small paper together
  • dry snacks – raisins or crackers
  • art materials – play dough, stickers, or crayons



Get Well!


Since this box, we made another “Get Well Box” for her Abuelita by covering up a cereal box and filling it with popcorn, her grandmother’s favorite snack.


These winter months are bound to bring colds. This was a great way for a toddler to take an active part in communicating their concern for a missed friend. What a way to tell friends and loved ones, “Here’s wishing you a healthier tomorrow!”



Storytelling with Animal Shadows


These dark evenings have inspired storytelling using shadows!  My animal shadow puppeteering skills are rather limited, and shamefully only include a dog and spider. The spider is inspired mostly because of the way it moves.


Greysen doesn’t mind, and listens intently to the adventures of spider and dog, but I realized she has not really tried to take an active part in the storytelling, which is not like her – or any toddler, for that matter. I wondered, is trying to make animal shadow puppets intimidating?


During an inspiring conversation with a friend (Thanks Laura D!), I decided to make some animal silhouettes that we could use as storytelling prompts.


I needed more evidence that I was on the right track. In the days following, we were at the park when Greysen looked down at her shadow while swinging her arms in the air and said, “Octopus.”


Octopus Shadow


The octopus makers!



Based on her love of all things ocean-related, Greysen and Moon’s artistic Tia Stephanie drew silhouettes of several sea creatures. The cast includes: Dolphin, Seahorse, Octopus, Hammerhead Shark, and at Greysen’s request, Sea Dragon.


As usual, we made due with what we had on hand – kebab skewers with the sharp ends cut off, taped to the the cardboard cutouts. I would have used popsicle sticks if I had them, but these worked just fine.


Using a flashlight as the source, I told a short story starring our newest character – Dolphin!

Greysen was eager for a turn. She proudly announced Dolphin’s usefulness as a flyswatter as she swatted the wall.  I watched happily and waited. I did not correct or encourage her to tell a story, and I respected her right to discover and try her own ideas.

After a few swats, she twirled the dolphin in a circle. She brought it close to the light source, then far away. Then, a shift – she focused on the shadow and had the dolphin peck at the wall. “Dolphin eating.”  Watching the wall she made adjustments and manipulated the dolphin silhouette to peck at the floor. “Dolphin eating.”



Mike added a piece of blue cellophane over the flashlight for an under water aura.


After playing with the dolphin for a bit more, she laid on her back and made a butterfly with her hands! Did the animal silhouette give her the confidence to try one with her own hands?


Soon, characters Seahorse and Hammerhead Shark joined our tale.




They sang, “Happy birthday!”



Good night, new friends!


 Do you ever tell goodnight stories in the dark?


Art On The Go



For now, we have a place to host our Infants & Toddlers’ Art Group. I’m so thankful for a warm place to paint on these wet days. Unfortunately, colds in our home kept us from attending our last art group. So I was challenged (and who doesn’t love a last-minute challenge?) to pack up the art materials and keep cleanup as simple as possible for the moms who would be packing things up instead of me (thanks Kimmy and Anne).




 Sensory Play and Action painting


I poured a few drops of food coloring in a ziplock bag along with the finger paint, and mixed it by squeezing the bag instead of packing it in small jars as I usually do.



Aside from the art medium, paper, and/or tools themselves here’s a short list of things I bring with me when setting up art anywhere but at home. This time, I replaced all my reusable cups and plates with disposable ones so that the other parents would have less to take home/return to me.



  • Drop cloth – Doesn’t keep paint from getting everywhere, but it helps.
  • Paint cups or plates for infants – Since I was not going to be able to help clean up, I sent paper plates.
  • Masking tape
  • Clothespins & clothesline – to hang art with. I can always manage to find something to tie the line to and let the art dry.
  • Weights – depending on where we are going I may just use rocks or paint bottles, but it keeps the drop cloth in place when the infants are moving throughout the art area.
  • A trash bag – or two
  • Wipes or cloths – I generally use wipes because we don’t often have access to water.
  • Extra smocks
  • Markers – just in case there is a child who is hesitant to use any of the materials provided.
  • Optional*  easels and clips – I have used cardboard for makeshift easels to provide a hard surface for the children to draw or paint on when we are at the park.


Finger Paints on Textured Surfaces

Since we were finger painting again, I thought I’d set-up a varied texture experience. I cut several pieces of bubble wrap wide enough for a child to keep both hands in front of them.



I also cut several pieces of foil for something smooth, and perhaps cold, to paint on – or in this case, sit on.


Lastly, I always try to have a tool for children to paint with, just in case they are uncomfortable with getting the paint on their hands. I try to stay clear of anything too gimmicky that may devalue the painting experience.  For example, I cut 10-inch pieces of twine for the children to paint with, which I’d cut much shorter next time.



Art Group versus Art at Home


When I set up paint or sensory places for our art group, I offer them several choices because I don’t always know the children well and their developmental abilities often vary (some are sitting, while others are running). We also have art group once a month right now, so several things at once is still manageable.


When I set up art for the girls at home, and when I used to do it in the classroom, it’s is scaled down quite a bit because I know their experiences and interests. Also, I know that I can offer sensory/art experiences over time.


So, while their friends had several painting options at art group, Greysen & Moon had one option at home.  They, however, were more involved in the prepping process.


Moon mixed the finger paint by squeezing the bag! Greysen squeezed the food coloring and chose the colors, then helped me lay the paper out and tape it in place.


We used white finger paint on bubble wrap, so the focus would be on the texture and sensory experience of the art.  The white, however, was so hard to see that before long we added the yellow and blue paint that Moon had mixed just a short while earlier.


Now that I’ve got the hang of setting up art for a group at different places, I’m eager to try to set up art or sensory experiences for the girls at the park or garden. Have you ever painted at the park or away from home? What do you think would be the biggest challenge to making this happen?


Encouraging Self Care

Last week as I sneezed and sneezed, my cloudy mind was inspired!  I was in frequent need of tissues as I tried to stay near the girls while they played.


Why not move some tissues to Greysen’s level so that she can reach one if she needs it?


Here is the addition of a tissue box to her shelves on the bookcase.


I added a nearly emptied box with just a few tissues.


As to be expected, she was excited about this new access to tissues.  She did not use them sparingly, but since it was just a few tissues it didn’t feel like a big waste.


She stuffed her shirt. I don’t know what to say about that.


After that instance, however, the tissues have sat on the bookcase and only get pulled when there is a nose in need.


By trusting her with access to tissue, she now has one more way that she can care for herself and her needs.

Connections to Our Community through Block Play

As we were driving out of town last week, Greysen shouted “Town!” from the backseat. She has also named a few other places we visit, most often with equal zeal when we arrive at or drive past them. I was excited to know that she recognizes and is excited about these places. It seems that her sense of home and community is indeed expanding.


I thought about her block play. Greysen is at the age where her play is representational. She pretends to go places and see people, but they are all places she has recently been to and people she has recently seen as opposed to imaginary ones.  When we play with the blocks, she most often indicates that the blocks are to represent roads. So, to add to this play, I thought that I would introduce some blocks that represented familiar locales from her life.


I photographed her local haunts: the library, the grocery store, the post office, our house, Dad’s office, and her Abuelito’s office (ASIDE: I printed the pics on glossy paper because I wanted to be sure that they were vibrant representations, but I think this type of paper made the wraparound pics more difficult to adhere to the boxes).


Photographing the buildings was a bit harder than I had anticipated. I originally snapped pics as we went about our regular routines, because after all these are the places we go throughout the week. But, Mike had to go back and re-shoot a couple of them because the angles I shot were not great.


Mostly, I figured that if Greysen recognized the buildings, that would do well enough.


I used boxes that I had saved from Christmas deliveries. The photographs could also be fixed to blocks if boxes aren’t available, but I especially wanted to use boxes to create a tall-ish skyline.



I had planned on using clear contact paper to stick the photographs to the boxes, but I found that taping the photos at the edges was easier. I also covered some of the boxes with plain paper so that the print would not distract from the buildings.


I set it up while she napped.



She was eager to get to it!


She pushed her cars from building to building, telling the stories of her days, “Abuela, go bye-bye. Go get cow’s milk.”



Greysen is familiar with and recognizes each of these places when we arrive at them. I hope that by having these little bits of the town at her fingertips, it helps her to feel more familiar and thus more connected to her community.




Our Experiences with Baby-Led Weaning (BLW)

I was somewhat familiar with the idea of baby-led weaning before Greysen started solid foods, but had not seen it first-hand. The idea of infants being capable of feeding themselves made intuitive sense to to me, but I could not help but cringe at the memories of the occasional infant I have known in the classroom who choked on her or his solid foods.


I was not feeling 100-percent ready to take what felt like a huge risk at the time, so her very first taste of solid food was mashed avocado. It went so well that I could imagine Greysen safely eating thoroughly steamed or otherwise soft enough foods with her small but mighty gums. I felt up to offering her a slice of whole avocado the very next day, and so our adventure into baby-led weaning began.


Greysen fed herself right from the start. She brought food to her mouth, chewed, and gnawed tiny bits of avocado right from the slice, which was tricky because those were some slippery slices. I continued to simultaneously offer her some foods by spoon, depending on the type of food.


For us, some foods lend themselves better to BLW than others. Things that Greysen chewed easily included watermelon, broccoli, avocado, and banana, to name just a few.


Here is a video of her first broccoli. It took a while, but she eventually ate the crown.


Greysen did have a harder time digesting smaller foods like peas, which didn’t cause choking, but instead went through her undigested and whole more often than not.


I felt comfortable with our approach to eating, so with Moon we again started with a mashed avocado. Though she was six months old, just like Greysen was, she gagged a bit. I think some congestion contributed to this difficulty eating, and so we tried foods slowly, and always mashed.


Now eight months, she has the hang of chewing and readily reaches for food. We are again offering her whole foods for her to pick up and eat on her own, and we are finding that the same foods that worked for Greysen work for Moon – though she likes carrots much more than her sister ever did.


I attribute several positive eating habits that Greysen and now Moon have developed to baby-led weaning practices.


Greysen has always been capable of feeding herself, at first by hand and shortly thereafter with a utensil. She would often take the one I was eating with!


Here is a video of Greysen feeding herself at 9 months.  We did not have many infant spoons at the time, so she was wielding one of ours.



Greysen tries and eats a variety of foods consistent with what we eat at meals. No need to cook a baby meal and an adult meal.  At eight months, Moon eats foods from our family dinner. We sometimes continue to pull her cooked vegetables or legumes out before we season or spice our food, but ultimately we are cooking one meal for the whole family. This practice has developed some adventurous eaters who are accustomed to eating what we eat at family gatherings or special events.


I also credit this independent style of eating for establishing an interest and comfort in sitting while eating. I think that it is the major reason Greysen is willing to sit while she eats, instead of eating on the run as some toddler-aged children are apt to do.


Self-confidence in knowing their appetites. Greysen and Moon have participated in feeding themselves since they started eating. Eating on their own timetable has helped the girls develop, know, and respect their own appetites – eating habits I hope they sustain for a lifetime.





Three Good Reasons to Not Do Tummy Time

Trying to make the best decisions for my children most often means following my gut. When that instinct, however, contradicts the pediatricians’ recommendations – and it regularly does – I worry. Am I making the right decision?


I am never more confident in going against this grain than when it comes to respecting my daughters’ physical competencies and not putting them in positions that they can not get into and out of themselves.

Playing Peacefully On Her Back


More than several years ago, I saw the video “See How They Move” featuring Magda Gerber at a staff meeting.   In the video, infants’ movement are filmed and contrasted while they move on their own and by adults. I was instantly struck by the unnecessary intervention the demonstrating adults imposed on children’s physical development.


One demonstration stood out to me in particular: the child who was placed on their tummy for tummy time versus the child laid on their back.  One struggled, while the other was at peace.


After some discussion and some careful consideration, we as a staff decided to demonstrate our respect for the infants in our care by ceasing to place infants on their tummies.

Here are three reasons why I believe “tummy time” should be nixed in the classroom and at home:

3.  Children don’t like it (though I numbered it third, it is the most important reason). Most infants protest this position because they are not yet strong enough to be in this position comfortably. I cannot count the number of times I have heard a parent state that their child does not like “tummy time.”  We are told that it is in his or her best interest and, after all, why would we not do what is in our children’s best interest?


In my experience, young infants are most often unhappy lying prone for the very reason they are placed there – they cannot lift their heads. Unable lift their head and hold it steady often means that they can not comfortably see. Instead I have seen infants struggle at the discomfort and confusion of being faced down.

What are our babies learning from us when they tell us that they do not like lying on their stomachs, and yet we leave them there anyway?


2. Practices that encourage parenting against instinct should be questioned. We, as parents and educators, are inclined to respond to our infants’ needs, feed them when hungry, and be present when needing rest. However in the case of tummy time, we are expected to push that instinct aside and ignore our worried babies.


Does the benefit of tummy time outweigh encouraging parents to set aside the discomfort of their infants?


Tolerating tearful tummy times is justified by the rationale that children will experience unpleasant things in their lifetimes. The long-term effects of some unpleasant experiences, such as vaccinations or tummy time, are deemed to outweigh the unpleasantness.


1. It’s unnecessary. Placing your infant in a position that they are not physically capable of holding themselves demonstrates a disrespect for those movements that our infants are capable of doing. We are communicating to our infants that this is what they should be doing, rather than honoring their individual time tables and naturally unfolding strengths. Learning to hold one’s head occurs in time as children grow and gain strength.
Tummy time is not only meant to strengthen a child’s neck, it is also instruction for parents to make sure the infants head is not constantly against a flat surface which can cause plagiocephaly or a flat head.

The time infants spend time in car seats or under toy bars can limit their head movements, resulting in flat heads. So, tummy time lessen the effect of such restricted movement.



Floor Time - Looking at Plant

Floor Time In Lieu of Tummy Time

I never placed Greysen or Moon on their stomachs until they were well beyond being able to get there and back on their own. But even before the girls, I had the benefit of seeing the unfettered development of many typically developing children in my care. Rather than tummy time, we practice “floor time”. Laying infants in a comfortable position on their backs on a firm surface with interesting things to look at (toys or adult faces) offers infants a similar opportunity to develop their neck muscles without imposing an uncomfortable position on them.


Both Greysen and Moon can hold their heads up and learned to do so on their own time and without tears. More importantly. listening to my instincts has given me some confidence to hold onto in other times and decisions I have made regarding their care in which the results are not immediate.


Infant & Toddler Toy Shelves

It’s time to reorganize the girls’ toy shelves to accommodate their latest interests and Moon’s new ability to access the shelf on her own. The girls share a room, and thus the toy shelves and play space.


Here was our toy shelf before our commando-crawling Moon could reach it on her own.




Here is our toy shelf now. In addition to rotating some toys out and others in, the toys are arranged so that the smallest items sit atop the highest shelves, safely out of Moon’s reach . . . most of the time.



Infant Toys Shelves
In setting up toys that both girls would have access to, I kept a few things in mind.

Nesting Cups & Papers


1.  Less is more


Infants only need a couple of one type of toy since they are typically exploring at this age. Rather than set up the entire set of eight nesting cups, which Greysen would use to stack, I only set out three, which allows Moon to do all the things she can do with cups, including taste, bang, drop, and push them.


Fewer toys allow for more focus, and increase the probability that they will explore that toy longer (or at least return to it).


2. Containers that organize


Baskets, bins, and bowls keep toys together, helping the shelf look organized and attractive. I am especially fond of the ball basket since it allows for the toys to be seen easily. I found the basket and the leaf-shaped wooden bowl that holds some shells at a second-hand store in town.


Balls & Seashells

3. Playthings that are reflective of her interests, experiences, competencies


Moon has been interested in shaking things, and her collection of paper continues to fascinate her.


Due to an interest of Greysen’s, we have been going to the beach every two weeks or so, and so a small assortment of sea shells are available to both girls.  Moon has been throwing the balls and moving after them. I used to have six out in a different area for Greysen, but since Moon has been the one using them the most, I moved them down low, making it easy for her to reach.


Toddler Cubes:


1. Less is still more . . .

Greysen is now engaging in imaginary play and using her life experiences as starting points for play. In light of recent interests, she now has several fish and sea creatures to tell a story with, and enough blocks to make a tunnel.


2. Reflective of her interests, experiences, competencies


They are many ways to organize a toy shelf but, the kids’ interests take precedent. I also try to make sure that there are a variety of playthings and books that support all the five areas of development (cognitive, motor, language, emotional, and social) throughout our home.


Greysen has been interested in all things ocean-related. A recent trip to the aquarium bolstered this passion, along with an ignited interest in previously unfamiliar sea creatures, namely sea horses and octopi.


3. Non Gender-Specific Toys


For the same reasons we prefer open-ended toys, we look for playthings that can be used in a variety of ways and not limit play in any way. Toys that espouse gender stereotypes like this one that I saw at our local chain store potentially promote gender role stereotypes, particularly in the conversations adults have with children around play with such toys.


4. Wood Toys


I almost always prefer wood toys to plastic, and I would replace her plastic cars with wooden ones in a heartbeat, but the investment is not an option for us right now. So for now, Greysen has access to cars that belonged to Mike – it’s best to reuse anyhow.

So that’s our reorganized shelf! I’m sure we will need to rethink it once Moon starts to try to stand but it’s working for now. How do you organize toys for children of multiple ages?

Why the Term Messy Art Misses the Mark for Me


I can’t recall ever having referred to children’s art experiences primarily as messy art. It is certainly an accurate description, as they do tend to get messy if the medium allows for it.


The term, however, doesn’t connect to children’s art, exploratory or otherwise, for me.
Most often, when I watch children play and use art mediums, I notice that they are not getting messy for the sake of getting messy – messy just happens on the way to discovery. I’ve seen infants crawl through paint, usually to reach something. Toddlers, on the other hand, will often cover every inch of exposed skin. But, in those cases, it’s always very purposefully.


In the classroom, I remember caring for two children in particular who would pause during art, looking at the paint or art on their hands, but they would always still get past the mess because of their interest in the material.  They were interested in artistic experiences, despite the mess.


For me, descriptions such as “exploration,” “focus,” or “wonder” are more specific terms that elaborate on children’s artistic experiences and help me to appreciate these moments.